Welcome back! Last time we talked about the benefits of Gratitude and how to bring more of it into our lives so that we could hopefully learn how to experience more grace and miracles on a daily basis. Today in part two of our series we are going to discuss how to transform our Grief with gratitude.
I pointed out in my last post that it’s easy to feel gratitude when things are going our way, but how do we remember how to do it in the presence of Grief?
Grief is one of those sneaky emotions that reaches up and grabs you by the pants and pulls you down when you least expect it. And when it does, it can make us spew anger, sorrow, hopelessness, or denial depending on where we are in the grieving process. Each of us grieves differently and for different amounts of time.
Just like our meditation practice there is no right or wrong way to do it. It’s up to us and it’s highly personal.
We get to decide how we will view that loss, or what I observe in cases of infertility- the potential of losing what could have been. Every period can be viewed as a funeral when we are attached to the outcome of getting pregnant every month. It’s no different than the physical death of someone we love when we are attached to creating something that does not manifest on our timeline. Our emotions interface with our bodies the same in each instance and our physiology reacts in the same way by entering into fight or flight. We either want to fight about it or run away form it and pretend it didn’t happen. Neither of those reactions to emotions get us anywhere. Instead, if we can lean into our discomfort and reflect upon why we feel that way, we might learn something about ourselves while curbing our own suffering by looking at our plight from a place of observance rather than reaction.
What we put our attention on grows. (Click to tweet.) So if we keep placing our attention on our sadness or anger we will continue to stay in that state and in fact keep manifesting more of it in other situations. Many of us find it difficult during the grieving process in the way that we will see an item, or hear a song for instance that reminds us of that person and then just like that we are deep in our grief. The work comes in changing how we feel about triggers.
The next time you are experiencing sorrow or deep sadness, ask yourself, “What am I sad about?” Chances are, it’s because you miss something that was so great in your life that you are grieving the space it left behind. The funny thing is though, that as soon as we stop filling that space with our own grief and sorrow and shift our thoughts to gratitude for having had the experience of knowing someone so great or a hope that was so pure for something to manifest that didn’t, we actually make space for it to fill with something just as great or even better when we stop filling it with our sadness.
Try this little experiment next time you notice you are grieving a loss. Immediately list 5 things that you are grateful to have experienced with that person or in that situation. Close your eyes for 2 minutes while you breathe deep and hold that attitude of gratitude in your heart. Whatever comes up is natural. If you cry, so be it, but use the items of gratitude as your mantra. Keep shifting your attention to them over and over as many times as it takes until the sorrow passes for that moment.
Join with me below for an audio meditation to transform Grief through Gratitude. This meditation (as well as other free-guided meditations around gratitude) can also be found on our meditation page: www.ladypotions.com/meditations.